Not many things hurt like a broken heart. It is a specific, deep, emotional pain that can sometimes feel unbearable. It’s a loss. It may even feel like grief.
The period after a break-up can be one of the most challenging to navigate, and although you know we all go through them, you can’t imagine anyone feels as you do right now. You are right. Every break-up is different, and your pain is VALID.
Break-ups leave us in an unmanageable state of confusion with many unanswered questions. The “what if’s”, “how comes”, and “now what” questions consume your thoughts, leaving you unable to get the answers you so desperately seek. All you really want to do is go back in time, do things differently, or snap your fingers and magically be “over it”.
People tell you to “move on”, maybe “you’re better off without them”, or that “there’s plenty of fish in the sea”. You want to listen to them, you may even know they are right, but they just sound like words with no truth or meaning behind them. The truth is, “moving on” or “getting over it” is a lot easier said than done.
Is This Feeling Normal?
The wide array of complicated feelings we go through throughout the break-up process can feel like whiplash.
This may be the first feeling that manifests after a break-up. Tough days, tough nights, trouble sleeping, and tears that keep flowing. The anxiety telling you that you’re not good enough, the depression making it hard to get out of bed in the morning.
Maybe it’s anger? Anger at yourself, anger at your ex, or just anger at anything and everything. This too is normal. It can be easier to feel angry than to deal with the sadness. But anger doesn’t feel good either. You want to let the anger go, but don’t know how.
You may also feel confused. Asking yourself, who am I without my partner? How do I move on from here? You may feel lost. Which way is up? When you lose site of the future you began to build and envision with your partner, you may have lost site of the things you once wanted for yourself. The goals and plans you once had for yourself might not be as clear now. Those aren’t gone. You may need a little help to find them.
Break-ups ARE sad. You are allowed to cry. Anger IS a common reaction. There are healthy ways to channel your anger, turn it into coping, and begin relieving these emotions in healthy ways. Break-ups ARE confusing and messy, your feelings are real. Most importantly, they ARE normal.
No matter what you are feeling, you can learn to cope, to process, to move forward. Recovering from a break-up is possible. I can help you.
You Are Not Alone
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I have a passion for helping people with their relationships, however, sometimes the focus needs to be on the relationship you have with yourself. The major thing you need during this time is something you may have lost during the split, and that’s support. I can provide that extra support AND I can help you find YOU again. Together, we can begin to re-discover your own goals, create new ones, explore YOUR needs, wants, and begin taking the steps (no matter how small or slow) to a happier, healthier you.
Break-Up Recovery Therapy can help you learn more about healthy relationships, what really makes a relationship work, barriers that may have been preventing long lasting relationships such as anxiety, attachment struggles, or even commitment phobia. Therapy can help you gain insight on your own relationship patterns, and begin to prepare to create new, positive relationship patterns when you’re ready.
By allowing yourself to open up about the split, you allow yourself to open up to new, positive opportunities and begin to heal and grow.
You DESERVE the chance to find this healing. Brightside Therapy provides a safe, non-judgmental space to allow you to process the break-up, begin necessary reflection, a place to feel heard, and supported on your way toward achieving your own recovery.
How Can Break-Up Recovery Therapy Help?
My therapeutic approach is a personalized, collaborative experience to help you focus on YOUR needs and goals. I use a solution-oriented approach to help you begin to develop and work on your goals and your future.
Break-Up Recovery is a specific approach to therapy that allows you the space and time to verbalize your feelings regarding the relationship, your struggles, and process the break-up. Together we will explore the relationship and break-up to help you achieve a deeper understanding of your feelings, gain closure, and begin to set goals for what you want to achieve and where you want to be moving forward. Some of the additional outcomes you may receive from Break-Up Recovery Therapy are:
- Learn to cope better with your feelings
- Achieve Healing
- Increase Personal Growth
- Begin to re-define, find, and/or establish new goals for YOU
- Increase motivation to try new things
- Invest time in the things that are important to you
- Increase your self-esteem
- Find what makes you HAPPY again
- Explore “closure”, what it means and how to get it
- Prepare to tackle the next chapter of your life
- & more
Questions & Concerns on Break-Up Recovery Therapy
How Long Will I be in Therapy?
At Brightside Therapy, my approach is personalized for you, focusing on your needs, goals, and utilizing your personal strengths. We will work together to determine what you need and want from therapy, and work together diligently and efficiently to get you to where you need and want to be. Your willingness and ability to utilize the insight and tools we explore in therapy can minimize the time needed in therapy. Processing a break-up can take time, but the length of therapy is essentially your choice.
I’m not sure how to fit therapy in my schedule or how I’ll be able to afford it?
This is a common concern that people have when seeking therapy. I offer a flexible schedule that includes mornings, evenings, and weekend sessions by request to accommodate the high demands of work/life balance and busy schedules.
Therapy is a financial commitment, however, there’s no better investment than investing in your well-being, your future, and emotional relief and comfort. Additionally, I am also willing to discuss need-based sliding scale options to allow break-up recovery therapy accessible to those in need on a case by case basis.
Does Insurance Cover Breakup Therapy?
If you would like to use your out of network insurance, I would be happy to provide a “superbill” for you to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement at that rate that is part of your plan. If this is something you would like to do, please let me know so we can talk about what to expect.
What if I’m Afraid To Truly “Move On”?
This is a common concern, one that is understandable. Together, we will process where you are in regards to your current mindset and your ability to begin the “recovery” piece at your own pace. Therapy allows you the safe, supportive space to process these fears of “moving on”, explore what may be holding you back, and begin to help you search for your healthy ways to cope and move forward at a pace that is comfortable to you.
Don’t Wait. Get The Support You Are Looking For!
If you would like to learn more about Break-Up Recovery or want to schedule an appointment with me, call 954-546-4751 today. I offer a free 15-minute phone consultation to answer all of your questions, get to know you and your goals for your own therapy process, and help you get started on your break-up recovery journey. I look forward to speaking with you!